Everyone who has ever
ventured into the world of dating knows that it has a lot of hidden hazards.
Attracting someone you like can also be challenging. However, if you take
flirting as what it actually is — a natural strategy of propagation —
everything will go differently.
10 best flirting strategies that actually
work.
1) Eye contact
Eye contact that
lasts for longer than usual can reveal a lot about mutual attraction. It can
last about 4-5 seconds, but it will convey much more than a fleeting glance.
While communicating
with a prospective mate, you can find physiological proof of their interest in
you: dilated pupils. For the same reason, you can just look into someone’s eyes
if you want to let them know you’re interested in them.
2) Wearing red
Bright red is always
a way to carry a message, be it ripe strawberries, a road sign, or a necklace.
Psychologist Adam Pazda suggests that it might have to do with natural
instincts like those female baboons incite by demonstrating red patches on
their buttocks to signal their readiness to mate.
With his colleagues
from the University of Rochester, he conducted an experiment by showing men
pictures of women in red and white. Many of the participants thought that the
ladies in red would be more open to romance. The results of an analogous
experiment with women were similar: men in red shirts and sweaters looked more
confident and attractive in their eyes.
3) Humor
Professor Geoffrey
Miller, a psychologist from the University of New Mexico, is sure that humor is
one of the key ways to help us decide if we like a person. The ability to be
funny suggests quick thinking and creativeness, which always come in handy in
all aspects of life. Don’t be surprised if a witty joke helps you to arrange a
date more quickly than traditional attempts to win someone’s heart.
4) Playing hard to
get
Classic but true:
research shows that we like a person more when we’re not sure if they like us
back as opposed to when they directly say, “I like you.” Granted, individuals
vary, and you shouldn’t play hard to get if you already know that the feelings
are mutual.
5) Women: smile
A smile is not just a
sign of friendliness and a sense of humor; it also shows that a woman can be a
good mother and displays her good health. A study from the University of
British Columbia found that men are attracted to smiling women much more than
to prideful ones. According to the researchers, it might be because smiling is
associated with maternal urges and submission.
6) Men: play bad
Another research
project by the University of British Columbia found that women regard smiling
men as less attractive compared to prideful, brooding, or shameful men. This
means that acting like a “bad boy“ could help you win a partner, even if you
aren’t really a ”bad boy."
7) Mirroring
55% of attraction
communication is through body language.
We have reached one
of the most subtle and effective flirting techniques: mirroring body language.
People subconsciously copy those to whom they are attracted. If you mirror
someone, they will see that you really care about their feelings and thoughts
in addition to having good communicative skills.
Mirroring is also a
reliable way to find out if someone is interested in you. If you notice them copying
your mirroring, it often means that your feelings are mutual.
8) Varying pitch and
tone
How you talk is much
more important in flirting than you might think. A study from the Massachusetts
Institute of Technology found that men are more attracted to women who vary the
tone of their voice. On the contrary, more monotonous ladies received less
romantic interest.
The research also
showed that women preferred men who used words like “yep,“ ”okay," and “I
see” when speaking. These suggest understanding and dominance, which is a
naturally appealing trait in men.
9) Confidence
Confidence is the key
to success. A study by Dr. Monica Moore of Webster University in St. Louis, in
which people in bars and shopping malls were observed, found that it wasn’t the
most physically attractive people who were the most successful when flirting.
Instead, those who employed basic flirting strategies such as smiling and
acting in a confident and relaxed way received the most attention.
10) Touching
Here’s the last
secret: just touch them! Tactile contact is important. Research conducted by
psychologists in a nightclub showed that young women were more likely to accept
an invitation to dance if a man touched their forearm for 1-2 seconds.
According to a later survey, these men looked more confident and dominant,
which turned out to be advantageous.